Female friendships are one of the most important things in my life (along with family, my boyfriend, dogs, and not making plans post 9pm). Nothing makes me cringe more than people saying “I actually get on a lot better with men than women. Women come with SO MUCH drama” which loosely translates to “I have no female friends because I always try to shag their partners”. I also pity these women – I wouldn’t be able to get through life without my friends supporting me with everything from existential crisis’ to fake tanning that really hard-to-reach part of my back. But when I first moved to Bristol, I struggled a bit because I didn’t have many friends. As a self-confessed Tinder addict, I was annoyed that I had met dozens of Home County wastemen/bedroom DJs/Marketing and Finance graduates on the app, but there wasn’t an app for meeting friends. Then I found out Bumble had a friendship section, so I signed up and started swiping.
“Isn’t it weird judging potential friends by their pictures?”
…is what everyone asked me. And to be honest, not really! We’re willing to judge potential partners by five or six photos and a few lines they’ve written in the bio box, so what’s the difference? One thing I noticed about Bumble BFF is that everyone put in a lot more effort to writing actual nice things, rather than just saying “here for a good time not a long time” (vom) or “my mum thinks I’m handsome” (instant swipe left). Girls spend time crafting a bio that explain why they’re looking for new mates (99% of the time they were new to the area like me) and writing about what their hobbies and interests are. Unsurprisingly – and much unlike Tinder/Hinge/Bumble for dating – there were zero creepy advancements and no one offered me a threesome.
“Don’t you find it lame that you’re making friends via an app?”
One of my friends asked me this, and to be honest, I was kind of embarrassed to admit I was using an app to make friends. But at the time I worked with two other people, so I wasn’t meeting new people all the time. I really took for granted how easy it was to meet new people at school/uni/in a large workplace. Also, to reiterate, some people use Tinder for the sole purpose of finding a person to have sex with that night. Surely that’s more weird than wanting to find a friend to go shopping/for drinks/to get a mani with?
Ultimately, I’m so glad I downloaded Bumble and did some friend swiping, because it means I’ve met my lovely friend Ellie who has become one of my best friends over the seven past months! My time in Bristol has been massively improved, and she has all the qualities I could ever want in a friend. Like me, she had just moved to Bristol and wanted to meet some people and explore the city.
Words of advice
If you are thinking of meeting new people and making new friends, I 100% recommend using Bumble BFF. I would say it’s best to put lots of stuff in your bio, have an open mind, and be prepared to actually meet up with people – no one wants a pen pal in 2019.